queenkatiee:

isabellasofias:

queenkatiee:

 I was 22% smaller than the size I view myself as, and I’m confident with my appearance most days! Try this website out, it’s pretty eye opening. 
*the image above is not mine, it’s the person who originally made this post*

This was a real wake-up call for me! I picked one of the biggest ladies from the picture but the reslut cleary told me that I am between the two ladies to the left. I owe so much to the person who made this website becasue it made me realise that my body image is so wrong and now my focuspoint isn’t anymore to get thin, it’s to get healthy and fit as hell!

Love your comment!

I was 10% smaller than I thought! Awesome website- check it out!

queenkatiee:

isabellasofias:

queenkatiee:

 I was 22% smaller than the size I view myself as, and I’m confident with my appearance most days! Try this website out, it’s pretty eye opening. 

*the image above is not mine, it’s the person who originally made this post*

This was a real wake-up call for me! I picked one of the biggest ladies from the picture but the reslut cleary told me that I am between the two ladies to the left. I owe so much to the person who made this website becasue it made me realise that my body image is so wrong and now my focuspoint isn’t anymore to get thin, it’s to get healthy and fit as hell!

Love your comment!

I was 10% smaller than I thought! Awesome website- check it out!

A message from Anonymous
Hey, I've seen you talk about dissociation and I'm not sure if I have it? I don't think that I'm very emotional, I've had lots of bad news in the past week and I've just...taken it, I guess. I've not really had that much emotion, and the little I've had has been brief and entirely self-centred. I just feel a little sad all the time, but other than that not much. Is this dissociation or something else?
A reply from selfcareafterrape

It might be- but if so you’re not talking about a lot of the pieces of it.

which, is pretty normal of people experiencing dissociation. It’s very hard to identify what is off- when you’re still off.

But it could also just be emotional numbing. A lot of people shut down when they can’t handle what is going on. And it can be a disturbing experience- and make you feel like a bad person.  Like ‘such and such is happening but I can’t make myself care. that’s terrible of me.’

If it’s dissociation- the dissociation post should be able to help some.. for emotional numbing.. not so much.

You have to recognize what you’re emotionally numbing first. That there is an overwhelming amount of bad emotional stimuli going on right now- and that can be hard to deal with. You aren’t a bad person for trying to cope this way.

Now, what emotions do you think you should be feeling?

Sad?

Angry?

Upset?

Be as broad or specific as you like.

and why?

and is there anything you can do about the bad news?

Is there any problem solving that you can do to help solve some of the bad news? Or reframing to put things into perspective?

If you want to try and explore the feeling- maybe try to cause the feeling through something else. Whether it be poetry or a movie or someone else’s story.

and as always, self soothing is a pretty good idea. You may find that once you’ve done self-soothing, that the feelings are more manageable and thus more easily accessible.

One of the dumbest things anyone has ever said to me- “He couldn’t have done it, you loved him.” And I never reported him. The 3 years after, I never encountered a person who believed me, not even my 2 “closest” friends. I was the high school slut & he was just another skater dude. 10 years later he has a beautiful home, nice car, great job & he’s dating a cop who works for the village where it happened. Surely someone who is dating & will probably marry said cop could never be rapist, right?  Small towns for the win… NOT.

I really think proper education could have helped me & helped those I confided in to seek professional help. Educate yourself and your loved ones. Stop victim-blaming. 

socialjusticestudentaffairs:

Consent Campaign at UT Austin

Link

delicately-interconnected:

It’s interesting how straight men get up in arms about feminist discourse on heterosexuality. Not only are they threatened because it means fewer women are exclusively sexually available to them, but they have also internalized so much of their socially prescribed attitudes. They feel an intense need to categorize gender non-conforming women that they place them in the “male” gender box-because they’re fulfilling that role by being sexually involved with other women- a territory that is supposed to be controlled and dominated by men. They accuse lesbians of “just wanting to fuck straight women” because they cannot comprehend the idea of humanizing women, valuing them beyond a form of sexual capital. The pressure placed upon lesbians to be predatory, to act like straight men, is an incredibly refined form of lesbophobia. The basic truth is that lesbians are not like straight men, they have nothing in common with straight men. They are women who have been socialized as women. Male socialization requires dominance. Female socialization requires submission. Both require heterosexuality, and the power dynamic is perpetuated via heterosexuality. For a woman to be non-conforming to her gender role shatters the idea that loving and making love to women requires dominance, and acknowledging their social power triggers profound anxiety in men.

dsogdsg:

sqvad:

trashylittlefuck:

women are considered fragile but I’ve never seen anything as easily wounded as a man’s ego

this post is stupid as hell

case in point 

"If your sexual partner(s) express a limit or ask for something to stop and you do not respect it, you are stepping onto a scale that ranges from “jerk” to “full-on rapist”. Personally, I don’t want to be on that scale at all, and I don’t want to engage in sexual activity with anyone who does hang out on that scale."
nativeamericannews:

10 Things You Need to Know About Native American Women http://bit.ly/Jun9qK

nativeamericannews:

10 Things You Need to Know About Native American Women http://bit.ly/Jun9qK